Do you clam up when someone asks you what your goal are and respond, “I don’t know”?
If you do, just breathe; nothing has gone wrong, I promise. Not everyone has used goals as a means to accomplish or go after what they want.
People who are goal focused tend to assume everyone is, and then when you don’t have a goal, you can feel less than or like you aren’t doing something right.
The reality is working on a goal is a skill and something you work at, it isn’t just something you say, and it magically happens. Some were not raised in an environment where goals were talked about or made.
One of the biggest tools you need to have to achieve a goal is trusting yourself that you will make a goal happen. Learning to trust yourself is a step in becoming the person you want to become.
One way to learn to strengthen this skill is to give yourself small challenges. If you want to work out, challenge yourself to 10 minutes a day for 7 days. The first week you will more than likely have a day where you tell yourself you don’t have time, you are tired, or too busy.
That is okay; challenge yourself again. Eventually, you will workout 10 minutes a day for 7 days in a row, and you will congratulate yourself for accomplishing that challenge. It will give you a boost of confidence that you can do it, so you will make a new challenge, a harder one, and it will grow from there as you get more and more trust in yourself.
I use challenges to work on a skill or area that is more difficult for me or that I don’t have complete confidence in. This is how I ran a marathon, building upon little challenges. This is how I got into strength training, and now this is how I do ab workouts. Little by little, they boost you, and then a goal seems so doable.