Disappointment feels personal. Most of us learned early to tie someone else’s follow-through to our own worth, so when someone lets us down, it lands like a verdict on who we are, not just what happened.
In this episode, Amy talks through the two emotions she still works hardest on: disappointment, and excitement. Both show up more often than people expect, and both get avoided for the same reason. Feeling either one all the way through means giving up a little control.
Amy shares a conversation with her coach that changed how she handles her kids’ disappointment. Her coach asked her a simple question: why wasn’t she letting them experience it? That question reframed the job for Amy. It wasn’t her role to protect her kids from disappointment. It was her role to teach them how to move through it.
She also talks about what she noticed in her own daughter, a moment that pushed her to get more comfortable feeling and showing excitement herself. Excitement can be just as hard to sit with as disappointment when you’re used to keeping your reactions small so nobody has to manage them.
This episode is for anyone who’s noticed themselves flattening their own highs and lows to keep things easier for everyone else. Listen in, then notice which one you avoid more.
