Let me ask you something:
What version of you are you outgrowing, and why are you still holding onto it?
I know that question hits hard. But if you’re reading this, it probably means you’re already feeling it. That subtle tug. That inner knowing that the version of you you’ve been walking around in is starting to feel tight, uncomfortable. Like wearing jeans from a decade ago that you refuse to throw out “just in case.”
But here’s the thing: you’re allowed to evolve. In fact, you’re supposed to.
And that starts by letting go of the stories that no longer serve who you are or where you’re going.
The Stories We Cling To
We all carry around stories about who we are.
“I’m just the anxious one.”
“I’m always late.”
“I’m the mom who can never quite keep up.”
“I’ve never been good with money.”
Sound familiar?
Now let me be brutally honest with you: most of those stories? They’re not even yours.
Some teacher told you in third grade that you had trouble focusing.
Your parents always commented on how sensitive you were.
Maybe an ex made you feel like too much, and you’ve been shrinking ever since.
We adapt these identities, wear them like armor, and call it self-awareness.
But just because it’s familiar doesn’t mean it’s true, or healthy.
Comfort vs. Growth
We cling to these old definitions because they feel safe. Safe is predictable.
Safe says, “If I know who I’ve always been, I don’t have to risk becoming someone new.”
But here’s the reality check:
If your identity is rooted in an old version of you, your future will keep repeating your past.
Want to change your life?
As Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “To change your reality, you have to change your personality.”
Translation: You’ve got to be willing to say goodbye to some old stories, even the ones that used to protect you.
The Power of Conscious Choice
Let me tell you, there are parts of me I still love, and parts I had to let die to become who I am now.
I had to stop being the version of Amy who needed to have it all together all the time. The version who never asked for help, who kept her pain quiet because vulnerability felt like weakness. That version of me got me here, but she couldn’t take me any further.
So I let her go.
That wasn’t easy. Death never is. But when we bury the stories that were never meant to last, we make space for the ones that are.
Ask Yourself
I want you to ask yourself honestly:
- What version of me am I outgrowing?
- Who assigned that version to me?
- What would it look like to release that story and write a new one on my own terms?
This isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about finally becoming who you really are, underneath all the layers.
Rewriting the Narrative
Here’s how we start shifting:
- Awareness: Catch yourself when you say, “I always…” or “I’m just the kind of person who…” That’s a story.
- Challenge it: Is it true? Or is it just a belief you’ve repeated so often it feels like truth?
- Choose differently: Try on a new narrative. “I’m learning to show up differently.” “I’m allowed to evolve.” “I’m not who I was, and that’s a good thing.”
Final Thoughts
You are not broken. You’re becoming.
You don’t need permission to shed the labels and limitations that don’t fit you anymore.
You just need the courage to step out of the story and into the truth.
And if you’re looking for a sign? This is it.
Ready to let go of the version of you that’s holding you back? Share this with someone who needs the reminder or save it for the days you need to read it again.
