If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much”—too intense, too emotional, too direct—this blog is for you.
Over the years, I’ve coached so many women who carry that message like a scar. Somewhere along the way, they were told they needed to shrink. Speak softer. Need less. Be easier to love. And now? They’re exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from their true selves.
Here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear: You’re not too much. You’ve just been trying to fit into rooms that weren’t built for you.
The “Too Much” Story Isn’t Yours to Hold
That voice in your head telling you to tone it down? It likely didn’t start with you. It started with a parent, a partner, a coworker, a culture that wasn’t ready for your honesty or intensity or heart. So you learned to self-edit. You dimmed your light to make others more comfortable.
But confidence isn’t built on acceptance from others. It’s built on alignment with yourself.
Real confidence is not loud. It’s not about being the biggest presence in the room. It’s about knowing who you are—even when that feels like too much for someone else.
Why People Label You as “Too Much”
Let’s get real: “Too much” is often code for “more than I know how to handle.”
People who haven’t done the emotional work will often project their discomfort onto you. They’ll try to contain what they don’t understand. That’s not your burden to carry.
Your sensitivity? That’s insight.
Your passion? That’s power.
Your directness? That’s clarity.
You’re not “too much.” You’re fully expressed. And when you’re grounded in that, you stop needing others to get it.
Reclaiming Your Confidence Starts with Letting Go
If you’re ready to step into your full presence—without apology—here’s where to begin:
1. Unlearn the Apologies
Stop saying sorry for taking up space. Stop shrinking when your truth feels big. Confidence comes from standing in your full self, even when it makes others uncomfortable.
2. Remember: You’re Not for Everyone
And that’s a good thing. You weren’t made to be universally liked. You were made to be honest, aligned, and connected. The right people don’t ask you to be less.
3. Watch Where You’re Still Shrinking
Notice the spaces where you hold back: the room where you don’t speak up, the relationship where you walk on eggshells. Those are your signals—it’s not that you’re too much, it’s that the space isn’t enough.
4. Get Clear on What You Want to Feel
Ask yourself: How do I want to feel in my relationships, in my body, in my life? If you’re living for someone else’s comfort, that answer won’t come. But if you listen in? You’ll hear what alignment actually feels like.
5. Choose People Who Get It
Surround yourself with people who don’t just tolerate you—they see you. They respect your boundaries, support your growth, and love your wholeness.
Ready to stop performing and start standing in your full self?
You’re not too much—you’re exactly the amount needed for the life you’re building.
That’s what we help you rediscover in the Purpose Filled Life Program. We work on building self-trust from the inside out, breaking free of old patterns, and stepping into confidence that’s calm, grounded, and unshakable.
Because the truth is, your intensity is a gift. Your honesty is healing. Your energy has a purpose.
You don’t need to shrink.
You need to return to yourself.
Let’s talk about how the Purpose Filled Life Program can support your next chapter.
